Do I often say “yes” when I really want to say “no”?
Do I feel responsible for other people’s emotions or problems?
Do I share personal information too quickly or with people I don’t fully trust?
Do I feel guilty or anxious when I try to set limits?
Do I change my opinions, plans, or needs to avoid conflict or please others?
Do I struggle to identify what I truly want or need?
After interactions, do I often feel drained, resentful, or taken advantage of?
This month, We’re heading into the final stretch of the year, and now is the perfect time to pause and check in on your 2025 goals. Too often, we set big intentions in January and then let them slip as life gets busy.
Below I include reflection and questions you can do to remind yourself why you set them in the first place and how we can make sure our goals don’t always take a back seat to others.
While kindness and cooperation are healthy, people pleasing goes further and is usually rooted in fear of rejection, low self-worth, or a need to be liked
I had 99 problems AND excuses not to make movement a part of my daily habit. Sometimes, being an over-achiever also gives you reason to ignore yourself. The gratification of helping others over-shadows listening to your needs. That was my banner cry!
I chose to take both physical and internal/mental space. I will add digital space as well! That’s ok! Choose your boundaries and where you need space.
Discounts are areas we “overlook” or shortchange” our basic needs in order to allow us to focus on others. Discounts provide us with a tangible “scapegoat” that avoids attention to self. Using “Sure” “Ok” or ” “I guess so” when you really want to say NO!
In honor of mental health month, this conversation felt right. Let’s all be honest… how often do we take a day off purely for our mental well-being? Let me be the first not to raise my hand…. A Deloitte study found 68% of those surveyed are not using the well-being…
The Queen of R&B Mary J Blidge is my Hype Woman. I’ve never met her, but her songs have gotten me through a number of challenges. I can remember driving down the highway headed toward an important Audit; confidence growing as Ms. Mary belts out the words below in her…
If you’re not practicing self-care at work, are you practicing self-neglect?