Wife, Mom, Boss 👩🏽‍💻; People Pleaser…….. NOPE!

I’m in my Eras:

I’m in my “Trad Wife” Era…
I’m in my “High School Mom” Era….
I’m in my “Work Outside the Box” Era…..
I’m in my “Entrepreneur” Era….
I’m in my “ME” Era……

I’m not in the Era of:

Feeling guilty for prioritizing Self
Saying “yes” when I want to say “no”
Changing Myself to fit in
Constantly fixing others problems
Making space and time for others when not reciprocated
Seeking others comfort or approval at the expense of my own well-being

While kindness and cooperation are healthy, people pleasing goes further and is usually rooted in fear of rejection, low self-worth, or a need to be liked.

and so… it’s taken decades to get here, and HERE WE ARE! After Zumba class I was chatting with my Friend about all the things and this post idea really came to me. It’s time to 🛑 PEOPLE PLEASING! it’s time to find a healthy balance among the responsibilities of our life, and responsibilities to ourselves.

It’s truly a matter of health…..

Study of female health professionals with high levels of acute and chronic stress were double the risk of diabetes!

I’ve heard so many women feeling the burdens of years of self-neglect they are sick and tired of being sick and tired. I also keep seeing these “3 months to change your life” messages that are alarming to say the least. Let’s Chat…

Let’s Redefine Self Care:

I’m wrapping up the book Uncommon Favor by Dawn Staley’s. Beyond me giving this book 5 STARS I’m more energized than ever that the formula to stop people pleasing, and start living your most authentic life does not require extreme change… but rather small steps toward designing the life you want. Will there be setbacks, absolutely I have them daily lol. But on the other side is a level of freedom that is indescribable.

Let’s journal together how we will take action on the steps below. Write down just one step you can take TODAY toward these people-pleasing recoveries!

Set Boundaries
Schedule Time Off
Seek out support— Be LOUD
Show up authentically
Feed yourself nutritious food
Take Breaks

For Mother’s Day, my beautiful Sister-In-Law sent this wonderful candle. Every time I light it, I am reminded that we are not one-dimensional, we can be in all of our fullness, and all of our eras.

The difference is, we don’t need to be all of those things, to someone else.

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In peace,

References:

Uncommon Favor by Dawn Staley

Agape Presents Candles

Let’s Take This Journey Together…

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I’m cheering for you!!